I and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for last 2.5 years. All is going fine between us. But, he has trust issues.
While I am his first love, I had been in a relationship with someone else before. He is very caring, loving and a perfect guy. But, whenever we have a fight he always drags my ex in between or questions my loyalty. He feels that I still love my ex despite me being 100% loyal.
His mentions about my ex is depressing me every time. What should I do?
Dear Blameless GF,
Jealousy and suspicion are Siamese twins. They can’t be separated, but unfortunately they can certainly separate a relationship. What’s wrong with that boyfriend of yours? Stupid question. You’ve figured that out yourself. But ‘trust issues’ stem from a deep-rooted insecurity that has nothing to do with you, and unfortunately, there’s no spade or scalpel that can prise it out. It’s about time you stopped pandering to his suspicions, and tell him upfront that this nonsense has gone on too long, and if he doesn’t have faith in you, then this relationship has no future.
Serve the ultimatum as coolly as possible, that if he doesn’t axe your ex out of your conversations, and, more important out of his system, then, however much you love him, and however much it will hurt you to leave him, you will simply have to go your separate ways. If he still doesn’t get it, please do get out. Tough now, but imagine the daily trauma if you don’t.
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